In addition to touching a person who can 'feed' you the correct 'feel', changing your condition requires examples from which to pattern new movement. Here's some videos you might find useful. Click on the 'menu' button on the player to see all the videos in that 'channel'.
Examples from 'I-Liq Chuan' expressions of taiji principles.
Examples from 'Taijiquan' expressions of taiji principles.